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5 Things To Expect When You Go Through a Divorce

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No one expects when they marry the person that they love that one day they’ll be going through a grueling divorce.  One day you’re looking for engagement rings, and the next day you’re looking for an attorney.

Although nothing can entirely prepare you for divorce, there are ways to help ease the discomfort and make it through to the other side.  Here are some of the most common things to expect when going through a divorce, and how to handle them.

Financial Worries

Besides the initial worry about the loss of your relationship which you once cherished, you may start to think about how you’ll possibly afford your lifestyle on one salary alone.  When you’ve been living on two salaries combined for an extended period of time, it can be a shock to imagine it being cut in half.

This can be particularly stressful for a spouse who was the homemaker for the duration of the relationship.  They suddenly need to create an income of their own which may be difficult if they haven’t worked in a long time.

It’s important to stay calm during these periods of financial worry and focus on a solution rather than the problem.  By focusing on ways to overcome adversity rather than spin your wheels in it, you’ll make it through to the other side successfully.

Varying Emotions

Divorce is a rollercoaster of emotions from the very beginning.  One minute you may feel excited and hopeful about creating a new beginning, and the next you may be sobbing wondering what you’re doing with your life.

Don’t be surprised to question everything several times a day during your divorce.  It’s completely normal to feel all sorts of feelings throughout the process.

Lower Self-Esteem

When you break up with your spouse, no matter who’s choice it was, you may start to wonder if you’ll be alone forever.  Accepting that you’ve failed at making a relationship last forever can make you feel whether you’re worthy.

It’s important to remember, however, that the end of a relationship does not equate to failure. You may have to say goodbye to someone who meant a great deal to you, but that doesn’t mean you’re unworthy of love.

Anger

You may find that both of you make a lot of decisions based on emotions rather than logic.  Since anger is frequently the driving force behind the divorce process, things can get heated and passionate.

Be sure to assess whether you’re making a choice based on emotional intelligence, or to get revenge.

Opportunity For Growth

Every painful experience in life comes with the opportunity to grow and learn.  Rather than allowing your divorce to suck the life out of you, see it as a chance to develop stronger than before.

Only by finding the silver lining in adversity can we survive heartbreak and pain.